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A Thoughtful Overview of Human Sexuality

6/8/2026 7:00:00 AM BY Dr James H Dotson Jr

We live in a culture where sex is front and center all around us. For example:

  • Explicit sexual content is commonplace in media and entertainment, and sex is a dominant theme in many TV shows, movies and songs.
  • For many people, the word sex or sexuality brings to mind only romance and intercourse. 
  • Pornography is on the rise, among males and females, and children are being exposed at increasingly younger ages.
  • Human trafficking, including sex trafficking, remains a widespread global crisis.
  • Sex before marriage and outside committed relationships is common.
  • Many individuals come to believe that being hot, sexy, studly, hunky, sensuous, seductive are goals they should pursue, a message often reinforced in media.
  • A prevalent ideology in today’s culture is that if something feels right and is personally desired, it should be embraced without hesitation.

Yet, while our culture is highly sexualized, many—unfortunately—still have only a limited understanding of human sexuality. What does it include, and what influences how it develops, how people experience it, and how it is expressed? Exploring these questions can lead to a broader and more thoughtful understanding of the topic.

Let’s take a closer look.

Definition

“Human sexuality is the way we experience and express ourselves as sexual beings.” To understand this definition more clearly, it helps to begin with a simple frame of reference. It may seem abstract at first, but it will make sense as we continue.

Experience

The term experience can refer to several related ideas:

  • Personal involvement: taking part in something directly or undergoing it firsthand.
  • A lived event: a single event, or a series of events, that a person has participated in or lived through.
  • Practical learning: active participation in events or activities that builds knowledge or skill.
  • Perception or awareness: understanding an object, thought, or emotion through the senses or the mind.
  • Accumulated history: the sum of past events in the life of an individual.

Express

The word express has several related meanings, depending on how it is used.

  • As a verb: to show, communicate, or make something known through words, appearance, or actions.
  • As a noun: a clear or distinct statement, expression, or manifestation of something.
  • As an adjective: clearly stated or indicated; direct, plain, explicit, and unambiguous.
  • By resemblance: closely representative of something else or bearing an exact likeness.

Sexual

To better understand sexual in this context, it helps to organize its meanings into a few related categories.

  • Sex and sex characteristics: relating to the sexes, gender, or the quality of being male or female; also relating to the sexual organs and their functions.
  • Reproduction: relating to reproductive processes, including fertilization and the production of offspring.
  • Desire and behavior: relating to motives, instincts, drives, desires, behaviors, and sexual activity, including intimate physical contact and stimulation.
  • Attraction and identity: relating to physical attraction, intimacy, sexual orientation, sexual identity, and preferences.

Key Point

Human sexuality is a fundamental part of being human. It is woven into our nature and reflected in both how we experience it and how we express it.

Factors That Shape How People Experience and Express Their Sexuality

This section highlights five interconnected dimensions that shape how people experience and express their sexuality, including:

  • Body
  • Mind
  • Spirit/Heart
  • Personal History, Behavior, and Lifestyle
  • Social, Community, Environmental, and Broader Societal Influences

The following subsections define each dimension and provide examples of how each one may shape a person’s life.

Body

The body dimension includes:

  • Genetics (genotype and phenotype)
  • Physical structure, form, frame, and physique
  • Anatomy and physiology

In this context, examples include:

  • Gender (i.e., sex assigned at birth)
  • Hormones and sex organs
  • Conception and reproduction (or procreation)

Mind

The mind dimension includes:

  • Capacity/Processes to think, perceive, feel, desire, will 
  • Capacity/Processes to learn, know, understand, remember, recollect 
  • Seat of the faculty of reason

In this context, examples include:

  • Information and knowledge about sexuality
  • Thoughts, emotions, feelings, intentions related to sexuality 
  • Decisions/Choices made related to sexuality

Spirit/Heart

The spirit/heart dimension includes:

  • Conscience
  • Affections, sensibilities, motivation, purpose, meaning
  • Character, personality, temperamental makeup

In this context, examples include:

  • View of self (identity), view of others, worldview 
  • Beliefs, attitudes, perceptions, values, norms
  • Life principles / principles for living 

Personal History, Behavior, and Lifestyle 

The personal history, behavior, and lifestyle dimension includes:

  • History: The whole series of past events connected with a particular person, and the impact (positive and/or negative) that has on that person, as well as what a person learns from his/her personal history and life experiences.
  • Behavior: Individual decisions/choices reflected in the way one acts or conducts oneself (especially toward self and toward others).
  • Lifestyle: The characteristic tendencies, habits, patterns of living manifested in the way a person lives.

In this context, examples include:

  • History: loving/nurturing upbringing vs. neglected/abused upbringing 
  • Behavior: abstinence vs. promiscuity
  • Lifestyle: living a life of sexual integrity vs. living a life of sexual immorality 

Social, Community, Environmental, and Broader Societal Influences

This dimension includes the social, community, environmental, and societal factors that help shape how a person experiences and expresses their sexuality. These influences can be grouped into three related areas:

  • Social influences: relationships with other people.
  • Community influences: institutions and settings where relationships develop and daily life takes place.
  • Environmental and societal influences: geographic location, culture, media, laws, and public policy.

Examples of these influences include:

  • Social influences: family, friends, dating partners, peers, coworkers, classmates, neighbors, and spouse or other significant others.
  • Community influences: schools, churches, neighborhoods, workplaces, and other shared settings.
  • Environmental and societal influences: where a person lives and moves through daily life, such as a city, state, country, or region; cultural norms, values, and media messages that shape how people see themselves and others, as well as what is considered normal or desirable; and laws, policies, and regulations that affect public life and social expectations, such as those related to marriage, abortion, school curricula, and advocacy for or against these measures.

Why This Matters

As you think about these dimensions—body; mind; spirit/heart; personal history, behavior, lifestyle; and social, community, environmental, societal influences—it may be helpful to pause and ask: What is shaping me right now? And what might God be inviting me to do next? Paying attention to these areas can help you understand your sexuality more honestly and respond with greater wisdom, intention, and hope.

  • Awareness: A good next step is simply to grow in awareness. The more you understand about human sexuality, the more clearly you can recognize what is shaping your thoughts, desires, and choices. And that kind of awareness often becomes the starting point for wiser, healthier decisions.
  • Development: It can also help to remember that these influences do not operate in isolation. They are connected. So, if you want to grow in maturity, make space for ongoing learning, honest reflection, and intentional choices. And if your desire is to live in step with God’s design for sexuality, it is worth taking time to understand that design and consider what faithfulness looks like in everyday life. Scripture addresses each of these dimensions of sexuality—at times directly, at times indirectly, and at times through stories that offer lessons and principles for living.
  • Relationships: This kind of reflection can also strengthen the way you relate to others. Whether you are single, dating, or married, it is worth asking how you can communicate more clearly, love more responsibly, and grow in sexual integrity in your relationships.
  • Guidance: If you are helping to guide someone else—whether as a parent, caregiver, teacher, mentor, or trusted friend—your role matters more than you may realize. Honest conversations, clear teaching, and a consistent example can go a long way in helping others pursue wisdom and sexual integrity.
  • Change and Growth: And if there are patterns, thoughts, or behaviors you know need to change, do not ignore that. Start by naming what is influencing you. Real growth often begins with honest recognition. As you better understand what has shaped your experience and expression of sexuality, you will be in a better position to pursue healing, make different choices, and move toward greater wholeness.

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Embracing Love & Sexuality: His Plan - Our Joy!

4/13/2026 7:00:00 AM BY Dr James H Dotson Jr

On October 26, 2025, Living Hope Seventh-day Adventist Community Church hosted the second annual God’s Design for Sexuality Conference (GDFS-2), a ministry of Training for Transformation®. The event’s theme was “Embracing Love & Sexuality: His Plan – Our Joy!”

The conference was designed primarily for family and friends of LGBTQ+, and pastors, ministry leaders and professionals who serve LGBTQ+ individuals. We engaged with attendees around two topics: identity and relating with the LGBTQ+ community. 

In this blog, we sincerely thank everyone who helped organize and run the conference, along with all attendees. We also share the main takeaways from the event.

Guiding Principles

We deeply appreciate everyone who took part in the conference; your presence made it possible. Thank you for fitting this event into your schedule.

While there isn’t space to cover every insight from our gathering, we'll briefly highlight three important principles below. If you attended, we encourage you to share your thoughts in the comments section for this blog.

Love

Love is central to both the gospel of Jesus Christ and the life of His disciples—loving God and loving others, as outlined in Matthew 22:34-40. This connection underscores that love lies at the heart of God’s design for sexuality; the acts of loving God and loving others are fundamental and interwoven elements in this design. That understanding inspired our conference theme: Embracing Love & Sexuality: His Plan–Our Joy.

Surrender

We are ALL sinners (Romans 3:23), and we are ALL tempted to sin—temptations both from outside self (Ephesians 6:11-12) and from inside self (James 1:13-14). We believe that the way forward for ALL is to surrender one’s entire life—including one’s sexuality—to Jesus Christ as Savior AND Lord (John 3:16; Romans 6:22-23), and live by the power of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:16-24). 

We ALL need the love, grace and mercy, forgiveness, and gift of salvation through Jesus Christ (Acts 2:37-38; 1 John 4:9-10; Ephesians 2:8). Following Jesus is voluntary, not mandatory—it’s a choice. We accept that there are those who will accept and those who will reject Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Moreover, we accept that it’s the Holy Spirit, not us, who convicts and transforms (Romans 8:9-17; 2 Corinthians 3:18).

Those in whom Christ Jesus abides and who abide in Christ Jesus (John 15:4-5), become new creations—the old is passed away and the new is come (2 Corinthians 5:17). Our unity with Christ defines our identity, which is rooted in Him. And through Him, ALL things are possible (Luke 18:27)!!! 

Compassion Without Compromise

When considering how loving God connects with loving others, Jesus Christ serves as our example. He cared deeply for people, all while consistently living harmoniously with and remaining open to God's guidance. His compassion never came at the expense of his core values—loving without sacrificing God’s truth/principles for living (John 5:19; John 14:23-26; Matthew 6:10; Matthew 7:21; Luke 9:26).

Acknowledgements

The successful realization of this conference was the result of collaborative efforts among numerous individuals, groups, and organizations. We would like to formally recognize those whose contributions ensured its success.

Host Venue

We extend our sincere appreciation to Pastor Christian Martin, the Board of Elders, the Church Board, and the congregation of Living Hope Seventh-day Adventist Community Church for graciously hosting GDFS-2 at their facility located at 5235 Merchants View Square in Haymarket, Virginia. The venue provided an ideal setting for the conference.

Speakers

We appreciate Jennifer Jill Schwirzer, LPC, EdD, Counselor and Founder of Abide Network, for her presentation on identity, and Michael Carducci, Co-Founder, Senior Speaker, and Executive Director of Ministry Development at Coming Together Ministries, for his talk about relating with people in the LGBTQ+ community.

Facilitators

After each presentation, four breakout sessions took place. We would like to thank the following individuals for skillfully guiding these groups (clockwise from top left):

On-Call Counselor

We also extend our appreciation to Heidi Martin, MSW, LCSW, Youth Sabbath School Division Leader and Music Ministry Committee Chair at Living Hope SDA Community Church, who was present on-site and served as our on-call counselor for attendees.

Meeting Planner

We would like to express our heartfelt thanks to Chariolett M. Johnson, CFMP, CMP, MTA, Owner & Principal Event Planner at CharMari Events, for her outstanding leadership and expertise during the entire event planning process. She played an essential role as a member of the GDFS-2 Planning Committee. If you are looking for experienced and dependable event support, CharMari Events comes highly recommended.

Volunteer Contributions to GDFS-2

Many volunteers played a crucial role in both the planning and execution of GDFS-2. Their dedication and hard work were pivotal to the event's overall success.

Well ahead of the conference, a group of committed individuals formed a planning committee to oversee every detail of the event. While some members were part of the team from the inception, others joined as preparations progressed, and a few had to step away before the conference for various reasons. At the time of the conference, the committee consisted of:

  • Christian Martin, M.Div., Pastor, Living Hope Community SDA Church
  • Crystal Hollingsworth, BS, Security+, Senior CyberSecurity Auditor
  • Laura S. Pierce, MBA, M.Ed., NBCT, Co-Director, Emotional Wellness Ministry, Seabrook SDA Church
  • Louis R. Preston, Jr., M.Div., C.D.M.
  • Janice M. Preston, PhD, RM, RN
  • Chariolett Johnson, Certified Faith-Based Meeting Professional
  • The committee chair (myself)

In addition to the Planning Committee, a remarkable group of volunteers contributed their time and energy to manage the on-site aspects of the event. These individuals assisted with setup and takedown, as well as other aspects of event management.

Special recognition is due to:

  • Alessa Wilson and Monica R. Mack, who provided English/ASL interpretation services;
  • Anne Pound and Kim Moody, who managed all AV and media services at the conference; and
  • Morris Dotson, my dear brother, for travelling from Tenessee to attend the conference and serve as photographer.

The success of GDFS-2 would not have been possible without the commitment and contributions of these dedicated volunteers.

Sponsors and Vendors

And last, but by no means least, we gratefully acknowledge our sponsors and vendors.

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Unmask and Act for Emotional Wellness

3/28/2025 9:30:00 AM BY Laura S. Pierce, MBA, M.Ed., NBCT, Co-Director, Emotional Wellness Ministry, Seabrook SDA Church

 

When I came across Matthew 22:37, it made me stop in my tracks. 

“‘… love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”

What piece of me am I not loving God with? Am I wearing a mask in my relationship with God, let alone family, friends, and church members? 

To love God with all our soul, means to unmask and be real with yourself. We need to face what’s broken and unhealthy inside of us. 

As many have said, what cannot be named, cannot be healed. Once we’ve named or identified those places within our heart, we can surrender them and be healed.

Emotional wellness isn’t about having a perfect life. It’s about being honest with ourselves and taking the necessary steps toward healing. A simple but powerful process to achieve this is using this equation:

Emotional Wellness = ITripleA or IA3, where I = Identify; A = Acknowledge; A = Accept; A = Act.

Emotional Wellness = Identify→Acknowledge→Accept→Act

Let’s walk through each step.

Step 1: Identify

The first step is to Identify the pain.

We need to take time to reflect and be honest with ourselves. We often go through life carrying emotional pain, struggles, and wounds without fully identifying them. Ask yourself: What are the things that keep me stuck? What are the things that prevent me from fully loving God and others? Consider whether it’s past hurts, toxic work or home environments, unresolved anger, fear, or even guilt. 

Identifying the root of your emotions is the first step to healing.  

Step 2: Acknowledge

Once we identify what is broken, we need to Acknowledge it.

This step requires courage. Acknowledging doesn’t mean staying stuck in the pain, but it’s about being real with yourself, and God. For example, a trusted friend asks, “Are you okay?” Instead of the automatic “I’m fine,” breathe and admit “I think I’m really stressed. I feel anxious all the time, and I don’t know how to slow down.”

This honesty removes the power of that hidden pain.  

Step 3: Accept

The third step is to Accept.

This step is about accepting the flaw or brokenness within us. For instance, you might realize that a toxic friendship is draining you, but you’ve been avoiding the truth because you don’t want to let go. You can tell yourself, “This relationship isn’t healthy for me, and I need to set boundaries.”

We are not perfect or superheroes. It doesn’t mean liking the situation or issue that you are in. Rather, it means facing it so you can move forward.

Step 4: Act

The final step is to Act.

After identifying, acknowledging and accepting what’s wrong, you need to make changes. If stress is overwhelming you, start prioritizing rest and seeking help. If it’s a painful past, begin therapy, prayer, and forgiveness. If it’s an unhealthy relationship, take steps to distance yourself and find healthier connections. 

Healing doesn’t just happen overnight, and it requires action on our part. 

Key Takeaways 

Remember, emotional wellness isn’t about ignoring pain, it’s about working through it! 

When you follow the steps in the Emotional Wellness equation—Identify→Acknowledge→Accept→Act—then you open the door to healing, growth, and peace.

As you take this journey, be hopeful because you are … Beautifully Broken!!! As the song says: 

Every tear, every doubt

Every time you’ve fallen down

When you’re hurting, feeling ashamed

When you’re numbing off your pain

When you’ve lost your way

And feel so far away

You’re not

You’re beautifully broken

And you can be whole again

Even a million scars doesn’t change whose you are

You’re worthy

Beautifully broken

Do not let past situations and traumas keep you from loving God with ALL your soul. He knows you are Beautifully Broken, so love yourself as you grow because God loves all of you!

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